ASSUME = ASS + U + ME

Good Morning!!

Today I am thankful for a simple reminder- “When you ASSUME, it only makes an ASS out of U and ME.”  I’m grateful for a strengthened resolve to communicate directly, and in a compassionate manner with those I am tempted to pass judgement on or perceive in a negative light.  

I witnessed an unfortunate sequence of events this weekend that left me feeling like I wanted to throw up.  I was a bystander in a tricky situation involving multiple people all rallying, in their own unique ways, around a loved one going through a trial.  From my neutral vantage point I was able to see clearly the assumptions made, the accusations hurled and the repercussions of the false conclusions. 

What we see in others is often a result of what we are looking for.  Our brain will find evidence for whatever we choose to think, regardless of what is actually true. Assumptions therefore truly do make an “ass” out of the assumer and the assumee. It’s a no win situation that inevitably ends up in misunderstandings and hurtful consequences.

I love Marjorie Hinkley’s well-known quote, “There isn’t a person you wouldn’t love if you could read their story.” I know the truth of this statement.  I’ve put it to the test and found it to be true every single time.  

I fully believe we are all just doing the best we can, with what we have, in our own, messy, human way.  No one is perfect, but usually our hearts are in the right place.  Jeffrey Holland gives this wise advice, “Think the best of each other, especially of those you say you love.  Assume the good and doubt the bad.” 

Grace is the key to letting assumptions go.  “She/he is awesome and she/he is also a mess, and I love her/him anyway!” From a place of grace we will be able to access the compassion and curiosity necessary to have a calm conversation.  “Help me understand …” is a much more productive stance than “How could you!” 

I am thankful for the gut check that solidified my resolve to avoid assumptions.  What are you thankful for this week?

I love you all and am grateful for the beautiful part you play in my life.  Together we rise! Thanks for being YOU!

YOU ARE DESIGNED FOR GREATNESS!!

Rooting for you always,

Candice Noss

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