Flow or the “Law of Surrender”

Dear Friends,

A few of you reached out last week expressing gratitude for my “Thankful Thursday” messages. I want you to know how much that means to me!!  As I sit down to write these emails, I wonder at times if anyone really takes the time to read them.  Life is super busy and with all the hustle and bustle I realize this is just one more thing that takes time. I’m so grateful to know these messages matter to you and are an uplifting part of your week. Thank you for taking a moment with me to self-reflect, and to pull out the lessons from the past week that you are thankful for.  As always, if you feel so inclined, let me know your insights. 🙂

This week I’m thankful for the concept of “Flow” or the “Law of Surrender”.  This past summer I put on a retreat (with the amazing Becky Stolle and Kristen Schroeder).  In preparing for this retreat, this concept really came to the forefront of my mind. I recognized the importance of having a plan, but allowing things to proceed with flexibility, according to the spirit of the moment.  Having high expectations, yes, but also understanding that the magic happens in the unplanned and unexpected twists and turns of the experience.  My intention for that retreat was “FLOW” and it served me so well!!

After this strong experience with “Flow” I began noticing it and applying it to every facet of my life.  I typically have a plan for my day which covers my clients, my exercise, my fuel, my kids, my husband (LOL), the family schedules…. Once I set those expectations of how I hope my day goes, it is so powerful to let go of any attachment I have to these things going a specific way.  I may be clinging so hard to my idea of something playing out a certain way, that I completely negate a better way. Often, when I follow “flow”, my best laid plans go out the door as life creates a different series of events, more in alignment with the highest good for all involved. 

I’m grateful for recently learning about “The Law of Surrender” from my beautiful friend Martina Muir.   These experiences I’ve been having are evidence of this universal law in action.  If you are a client of mine, I’m sure you’ve heard me talk about “That which we resist, persists”.  This is a piece of the law of surrender.  The more we try to force something, the harder it is to reach.  Just like chasing a dog in order to have it “come” just causes it to run away faster; or loving something so much causes us to grip it too tightly and ends up choking it.  Flow vs. force is a very insightful awareness to have.  Recognizing where in our life we are gripping our “manuals” or our stories too tightly liberates us to surrender these expectations and open up for whatever is best for us.  Clinging to how things or people “should” be keeps us stuck in ruts.  Surrendering our will and trusting that “all things are working together for our good” liberates us to turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones. There is great growth available through the law of surrender and I am grateful for the beautiful wisdom of allowing the flow that happens as we intentionally let go and utilize the law of surrender.

Have you noticed the law of surrender in your life? 


Genuinely yours,

Candice Noss

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