The Power of AND

Dear Friends,

I hope this email finds you healthy and happy. What happened this past week that was a tender mercy in your life?  I invite you to pause and take a moment to express gratitude.

This past weekend I remembered the power of “AND”.  I am thankful for this tool because it effectively creates access to the magical force of GRACE.

Occasionally, when the difficult 50% of life shows up, it’s easy to fall down the slippery slope of stinking thinking into what I call the “Messed up Mentality”. (I am a mess. I’ve messed up my life/my kids lives. It’s all a big mess.  It’s all my fault.) This “Messed up Mentality” creates feelings of failure, not enough, insecurity and shame.  It attacks our identity, purpose and relationships (with God, with ourself and with others).  These strong emotions bind our hearts, becoming chains that tether us down to the depths of despair.  Through succumbing to thoughts of the enemy and believing them as the cold hard facts of life, we unwittingly choose to lock ourselves up in these chains of self-doubt, fear and shame.  

I noticed myself spiraling down with the “Messed up Mentallity” this weekend.  I recognized the once familiar shackles of insecurity, self-doubt, fear, self-loathing and shame, present again, weighing heavy on my mind, sinking me into the dark pit of despair.  Then, a sweet tender mercy from a loving God. I heard the song, “Hold On” by Wilson Phillips.  As I sat ruminating in craptastic thinking the words of the song hit me like a punch in the gut.  

“You can sustain- or are you comfortable with the pain? You’ve got no one to blame for your unhappiness.  You put yourself into your own mess….Don’t you think it’s ‘bout the time to change your mind!!….  I know that there is pain, but you hold on for one more day and you break free, break from the chains.”

I realized I was choosing to wear these chains of shame, fear, doubt, insecurity…. And that I could break free.  Then, the second tender mercy.  I remembered the power of AND.  Yes, it is true, I am a mess … AND God loves me anyway.  The truth is, I screw up sometimes… AND I love me anyways.  Reality doesn’t lie, I am mishandling so many things … AND I am killing it in may ways … AND I love me for never giving up.  “AND” speaks to the fact that even when it is undeserved, God loves us anyway.  This unmerited gift of GRACE magically breaks those chains and liberates us from the awful emotions that block our progress.  Grace is proof of God’s unconditional love and love never fails.  If God loves me, I can love me… AND I can love others, granting them this same gift of grace that continually “saves a wretch like me”. 

I challenge you to stay vigilant about your headspace.  Choose wisely which thoughts you hearken to and believe.  When you find yourself slipping, apply the power of AND to access GRACE.  You are loved, even in your follies AND so am I.



Genuinely yours,

Candice Noss