Worthy Of Love

Good Morning Friends,

Happy Thankful Thursday!!

I am thankful for a quote I found in old notebook I opened up today from Catholic Monk Thomas Merton:

“Our job is to love others without stopping to inquire whether or not they are worthy.  That is not our business- in fact it is nobody’s business.  What we are instead to do is love, and this love itself will render both ourselves and our neighbors worthy.”

I whole-heartedly believe one of the most important things we are to learn in this mortal experience is how to Love God, ourselves and others.  That is what the 2 great commandments are all about, and it’s often super tricky!!  

Are there people in your life who you don’t feel are worthy of your love?  

When others treat us well, love us first, and are similar to us in significant ways, loving them comes easy.  But what about loving: those that are different than us; those that are “toxic”; the ones that trigger us; the people that break our hearts; those that betray us;  the ones that mistreat, abandon and abuse…? How can we stay in a place of love for these kinds of neighbors?

Understanding what is my business and what is not my business, and then striving to stay in my own lane has been the single most valuable tool for landing in a place of love, even for the most difficult people in my life. Controlling the controllables, and letting the rest go, has not only been liberating, but it has: strengthened the bonds of love between God and I; has improved the love I feel for myself; and allowed me to genuinely access love for others. 

When another person has proven to not be safe or healthy, I’ve found setting boundaries is a powerful way to stay in a place of love for them.  

Are you staying in your own lane with your relationships? Are there boundaries you need to set in your life in order to stay in a place of love for someone?

I’m grateful for the simple reminder to check my heart and eliminate any resistance to love.

God did place enmity between us and Satan, therefore I believe it is ok to hate evil.  However, the only enemy is Satan.  The rest of us messy humans are just trying to do the best we can with what we have.  We are often doing a crappy job, but God loves us anyway.  Can we figure out how to love each other?  I’d love to hear your thoughts. 🙂

If you’d like help understanding exactly how to stay in your own lane, how to set healthy boundaries and ultimately how to authentically land in a place of love in your relationships, message me.  My Conquering Confidence course is an in-depth study of these things. 

Rooting for you always,Candice Noss


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